As I was reflecting on the idea of letting go, these lyrics from “The Gambler” came to mind:
You've got to know when to hold 'em Know when to fold 'em Know when to walk away And know when to run
How often have we held onto someone or something that wasn’t for our best? How often have we clung to beliefs about ourselves that undermined our ability to flourish? How often have we stayed in a situation or relationship when the better option would have been to go? Whether we hold on or let go, risk is our companion. Letting go is an act of both courage and vulnerability.
Life is like a card game. We never know what cards we will get dealt, but once dealt, we get to decide how to play our hand. We get to determine which cards are keepers and which are not. This is the meaning of freedom…the gift to choose what we have in our lives.
So, ask yourself:
What am I holding onto that would be best to let go?
Which thoughts about myself do I need to kick to the curb?
What emotions do I need to express, and to whom?
How can I let go of who others want me to be, to become the person I am?
If we hold too tight to something that cries to be released, we run the risk of
Now ask:
What beliefs about myself do I want to hold dear?
Which of my relationships are worth keeping and why?
What personal values are worth fighting for?
How can you let others hold you in times of need?
Life is a continuous cycle of holding on and letting go. It is the nature of all things. Knowing when to hold on and when to let go is the secret to a fulfilling life.
So next time you are faced with a choice to hold on or let go someone or something, may you find your way to follow the guidance of your heart.
May you choose wisely.